Tuesday, May 28, 2013

10 Ways to Rise Out Of A Mommy Funk

There are days when motherhood is just plain overwhelming.
Tantrums, messes, tears (sometimes even from the mama).
The days can be long, repetitive, and even lonely.

If you're a mom, you know what I'm talking about. It's not that every day is like this - the amazing moments outweigh the hard ones for sure. But I'd be lying if I said there weren't days and even weeks that make you want to cry and eat a lot of chocolate.

Because I've been here, more often than I'd like to admit, I wanted to share a few of the ways that help me to rise out of a mommy-funk. I hope they offer some practical help. I'll share five of my "strategies" today and the remaining five next week!

Whether it's your spouse, your mother-in-law, a girlfriend, or a mom's group, finding people who are supportive is crucial. These are people who can listen, remind you that you are NORMAL, and to give a little perspective. After all, finding poop smashed into the fiber of your jeans is actually pretty funny...

First: what energizes you? Is there an activity that makes you feel like YOU? Find a way to incorporate some of these things into your life on a somewhat consistent basis. (And if you aren't sure what is life-giving to you, try asking a close friend what they think makes you come alive.) Examples of this for me are spending time with a girlfriend sans toddler, reading a book outside on my lawn, and being able to pray for people one-on-one.

Second: be realistic - you won't be able to do these "life-givers" every moment of every day. Don't set yourself up for failure by planning to finish a craft project, write a song, and go on a date all on the same day. But do make the effort to do these, even if it means getting a sitter or letting your little one watch TV for 30 minutes. You'll feel refreshed and more ready to be a mama.

"The only thing we can count on as moms is change" - Jamie Martin in Mindset for Moms. I have often called my mom in tears, asking for advice on an issue with Nicholas. I worry and Google-search like a mad woman - and then two weeks later he's grown out of that behavior on his own. Having the perspective that this is just a season has truly helped me in my darker moments. I think all moms need a tattoo that says "this too shall pass."

It's easy to see the behaviors/attitudes in our kids that irritate us. But what if we actively looked for the things that we love about them? Ask God to help you see the wonderful attributes in your kids. Write them down or take pictures of these moments. It's hard to be frustrated when I look at a list of all the new words Nicholas is saying and the silly ways that he pronounces them. 

Jesus sure was right when He said that it is more blessed to give than to receive. There's something good for our souls when we do something for somebody else, and it takes my eyes off of me. It doesn't have to be huge - just bless someone. Plan to make more dinner than your family will eat and bring the extra to a sick friend. Buy your husband his favorite candy, just because. Find $15 in your budget to give to a family in need. There are plenty of needs even busy moms can meet.

Read the final five HERE!

What helps YOU to rise out of a mommy funk? I'd love to hear your thoughts! 


  1. What a great post. Im no mama yet, but its funny to see how a lot of these can apply to marriage to :)

  2. I love your genuine posts!! this is so helpful! :)


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