Tuesday, April 23, 2013

I Don't Know What I'm Doing Either {A Little Grace for the Mamas}

Do you ever encounter situations as a mom where you think to yourself, "I have no clue what to do right now"?

I do. All the time.

The first time Nicholas threw a temper tantrum, I was absolutely confounded. I just stood back and stared as he threw himself onto the ground and screamed. Though my mind was frantically searching for some secret mom wisdom of how to handle this, nothing came. I felt like a bit of a failure, because aren't moms just supposed to know?

Maybe it's just me, but I often watch other moms and think, "how did she know how to handle that? I sure wouldn't know!" I see women coming up with creative activities to entertain their toddlers or using discipline tactics that actually work, and I wonder how they are so capable (when I don't feel like I am so much). I marvel at their flawless bedtime routines, then scoff at my ability to turn on Blue's Clues.

But you know what I've realized lately after talking to many of my friends who are moms?
Most of us don't really know what we're doing. 
Most of us are troubleshooting, hoping that at least one of our continued attempts will be the right one for our child. Most moms are using a combination of trial and error, praying for wisdom, and asking other moms (or Google) what they would do in a given situation.

And those awesome tactics we see other moms employ? Most of them are born out of sheer desperation  Not boundless wisdom and motherhood perfection.

So to myself, and to any other mamas out there: let's embrace the motherhood standard of imperfection. Let's let our utter cluelessness be an opportunity to go to God for help and to learn humility. And let's trust that God made us the best mommies for our children; our kids want us, mistakes and all.

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  1. Oh yes I completely agree.
    So often I say to myself "I have no idea what I'm doing, I just hope I'm not screwing them up too much"

  2. I have 3 kids and have no idea what I'm doing either, lol. Praise God for the overwhelming abundance of grace and forgiveness.

  3. I really wish that more mamas got this. We spend so much time comparing ourselves, our children and sometimes we completely skip over the things we thrive at in parenting while focusing on the ones we struggle with. I constantly have to pray for wisdom and patience, my kids throw me for a loop constantly! Beautiful post :)


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