When we have baby #1, we're shell-shocked, crying, and inhaling information on parenting. When crawling begins, we lose all sorts of freedoms all over again. As the kiddos grow older, we may shower more, but we also have to keep up with their growing list of activities. And the seasons go on and on.
No two moms are in the exact same season of life. Some of us only have one kid, some of us have six. Some of us are married, and some of us are single. Some of us have two kids + a colicky newborn + husband who is trying his darndest to support the family, so we're on our own all day. Some of us work outside of the home. Some of us struggle with post partum depression or are just plain frazzled.
The point is - we are all in different places of life. As we read what other mamas are writing, we need to give them, and ourselves, a ton of grace. We don't always know what seasons of life they are writing from. (And we can't expect them to know what season of life we are reading from.)
Me & the boy who inspired this little here blog
When I first started reading mommy blogs, I was pregnant and then a brand new mom. I was exhausted and recovering from a c-section. So if I had compared myself to seasoned moms who have a steady rhythm of family/work/blogging/homemaking, etc., I would have been comparing apples to oranges. And would have made myself feel incredibly inadequate.
Maybe that mom who looks super together has a sitter twice a week, giving her ample time to write and edit photos. Maybe another mama is on her 3rd pregnancy plus two energetic toddlers, so the TV is her very best friend. (Oh, how I love you Netflix!) Maybe the mom who is writing about parenting more intentionally has recently felt kind of aimless as a mother - so she's preaching to herself, not at you. *Cough, me, cough*
I write all this to say - please take the mom bloggers with a grain of salt. We are in different seasons of life and have different motivations/life circumstances behind what we write. Be quick to fight feelings of insecurity about your parenting, and the temptation to judge that other mama. (I am guilty of both.)
Ladies, let's champion each other. Let's be confident in who God has made us in this season, and look forward to the seasons to come. Let's graciously accept the children and the lives God has given us, and cheer each other on as we navigate this beautifully crazy journey called motherhood.
I'm talking to myself just as much as I am to you.