Thursday, February 7, 2013

Taking Mom Blogs With A Grain of Salt

Something that I've had on my heart lately is the idea that whether you're an aspiring mom, a new mom, or a seasoned mom - we all need to take mom blogs with a grain of salt. Here's what I mean...

When we have baby #1, we're shell-shocked, crying, and inhaling information on parenting. When crawling begins, we lose all sorts of freedoms all over again. As the kiddos grow older, we may shower more, but we also have to keep up with their growing list of activities. And the seasons go on and on.

No two moms are in the exact same season of life. Some of us only have one kid, some of us have six. Some of us are married, and some of us are single. Some of us have two kids + a colicky newborn + husband who is trying his darndest to support the family, so we're on our own all day. Some of us work outside of the home. Some of us struggle with post partum depression or are just plain frazzled.

The point is - we are all in different places of life. As we read what other mamas are writing, we need to give them, and ourselves, a ton of grace. We don't always know what seasons of life they are writing from. (And we can't expect them to know what season of life we are reading from.)

Me & the boy who inspired this little here blog

When I first started reading mommy blogs, I was pregnant and then a brand new mom. I was exhausted and recovering from a c-section. So if I had compared myself to seasoned moms who have a steady rhythm of family/work/blogging/homemaking, etc., I would have been comparing apples to oranges. And would have made myself feel incredibly inadequate.

Maybe that mom who looks super together has a sitter twice a week, giving her ample time to write and edit photos. Maybe another mama is on her 3rd pregnancy plus two energetic toddlers, so the TV is her very best friend. (Oh, how I love you Netflix!) Maybe the mom who is writing about parenting more intentionally has recently felt kind of aimless as a mother - so she's preaching to herself, not at you. *Cough, me, cough*

I write all this to say - please take the mom bloggers with a grain of salt. We are in different seasons of life and have different motivations/life circumstances behind what we write. Be quick to fight feelings of insecurity about your parenting, and the temptation to judge that other mama. (I am guilty of both.)

Ladies, let's champion each other. Let's be confident in who God has made us in this season, and look forward to the seasons to come. Let's graciously accept the children and the lives God has given us, and cheer each other on as we navigate this beautifully crazy journey called motherhood.

I'm talking to myself just as much as I am to you.

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14 comments:

  1. I love that even as a single girl, I can still gain so much from this post. Perhaps it sounds funny, but there are a lot of ways I find myself comparing to others even when they are in completely different seasons of life than myself! Continuously I need to be going back to the Word and look at the life of Jesus as my standard of living. He is what defines. I'm no better or less than any other bloggers out there. Love you Mackenzie. As always, beautiful heart...

    PS. I saw the video of Nicholas walking! What. A. Cutie.

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  2. So true Mackenzie!!
    While I love the blogging community, I often find myself comparing myself to other blog mamas out there, and it's not fair to me or the other mama's.
    I definitely need to turn to God more often and find my worth in Him!!

    xoxoMaria

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  3. Amen to this! In the past 4 years of "mommy blogging" I've done, I really wish more Mama's would encourage one another more, and compare each other less. It's so damaging to friendships! Not to mention, it's totally not what God has called us to. Motherhood is hard enough, we don't need daggers at our side.

    Have enjoyed your blog!

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  4. Amen and amen, Mackenzie! We all need to remember this. I especially like that you said that the blogger writing about motherhood can't possibly know what season of life we're in. So, thank you for sharing this!

    P.S. Stopping by from Desire to Inspire and have become your newest follower {via Bloglovin + GFC}. I'd love to have you over at my blog: http://www.domesticblissdiaries.com and, if you like what you read, follow along with me.

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  5. That is so true! We are all in different situations. Thanks for keeping it real & for all your uplifting posts! :)

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  6. Mackenzie...every time I read something from you I am so impressed. =) Love this post!

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  7. I just stumbled across your blog and this is the first thing I read. I couldn't agree with you more! It's hard enough being a mom and we aren't doing ourselves (or our children) any favors by comparing ourselves to others. I've learned that being a new mom requires a lot of humility but also confidence. It's about helping one another learn and also doing what YOU think is right for your little one:)

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  8. Thank you so much for this Mackenzie!!!! Being pregnant with my first baby, I have been looking at more and more mommy blogs and already have been comparing myself with them. Not good. Thank you for this beautiful reminder in my new season of life I am walking into.

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  9. Perfect timing on this post. I am currently pregnant with baby #2 and starting to get back into mom blogs again and you are right. We do have to take them with a grain of salt and remember that each and every one of us lives life and does things differently :)

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  10. Thank you so much for this post, a refreshing reminder to just love on each other. Have a wonderful joy filled weekend.

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  11. Just found you, and your words are oh so true.

    "Comparison is the thief of joy"....I live by those words. So many times, the person we envy is actually envying US.

    Being a mama is hard work without comparing oursleves to others. I love that blogs make the world smaller and that mamas have come to me with advice or FOR advice.

    You are doing a wonderful job, remember that!!
    xo

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  12. I'm very new to blogging, and as the mother of a 10 month old I'm pretty new to being a mom too. This was such a great post for me to read right now! It's been kind of overwhelming reading other mom blogs because not only are they all WAY ahead of me as far as blogging goes, everyone seems to also have it way more together as far as parenting goes too. Thanks for the reminder that I'm not necessarily lacking in anything, I'm just very early on in both of these journeys!
    PS I LOVE your glasses!

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