Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Building Community As A Stay-At-Home-Mom

This week I am spending my mornings working in the office of our YWAM ministry. I'll be back at my old job in our admissions office, getting to work with the staff and students who come through our missions training schools. Though it means I have to be away from Nicholas, it also means that I get to be around adults all morning! I get to wear earrings, stay covered-in-banana-and-spit free for a few hours, and enjoy a change of pace from my normal routine as a stay at home mom. 

The transition from working around lots of people all day to spending my days at home with Nicholas was a huge transition for me. And I think it is a big transition for all stay at home moms. At first it's kind of a nice break from "real life." (Besides the whole no-sleep, recovering-from-labor part.) But after not too long, you start to miss being around other adults. You miss the connections, the meaningful conversations, and talking about things other than why you shouldn't put x, y, and z in your mouth. 

I've found that since Nicholas' birth, it is vital for me to be intentional about building my friendships and being around other adults. My friend Hannah agrees with me on this! She has some awesome ideas for how to intentionally build community as a stay at home mom, and she's sharing them today! Hannah is a new mom, so she knows a thing or two about the need for relationships. Take it away, Hannah!

Hello! I'm Hannah and I blog over at Simply Add Coffee. I'm wife to Harrison and Mom to our 3-month-old daughter.

 I have a passion for building community and living and sharing life with the people around us. But as a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM) it can be a real challenge to find community and build solid relationships in between diaper changes and nap times. Here are a few suggestions for building community as a SAHM:
  • Attend or start a playgroup - Playgroup can be so simple if you just get started. All you need are some moms, some kids, and a place to meet. A group of moms from our church gets together every other week. We take turns hosting at different houses so no one person feels overwhelmed, and whoever shows up, shows up. It’s not a big commitment, and it just works as an automatic plan. See if there are playgroups already going on in your church or neighborhood, and if not, start one!
  • Meet new people - Kids are a GREAT way to meet new people and make friends because it is SO easy to start a conversation about your kids. Take your kids to the park or indoor playground and just start making conversation with other moms.
  • Video chat for Coffee - Let’s face it, somedays it’s just too much to get out of the house. Schedules might be crazy and getting everybody dressed and ready to get out the door can be a lot of work. So once your kiddos are down for a nap, or having quiet play time (or a movie!), grab a cup of coffee and “meet” a friend over a video chat. Be sure to schedule it ahead of time, and be and mindful of each other’s time, but this can be a great way to sit down for a conversation without leaving the house.
  • Make friends in your neighborhood - There’s nothing better than having a friend next door or just down the street! Start building relationships with the people around you by inviting a neighbor over for coffee or to take your kids for a walk in the neighborhood.
  • Communicate frequently - It's hard to build relationships when you only see someone once a week or a couple of times a month. Make it a habit to communicate frequently with your friends, whether that means getting together, talking on the phone, or just sending a "How are you this week?" text once in a while.
Having children is a true blessing, but the time when they are little can be difficult to build and maintain relationships. Take the time to make friends and invite people into your life where you are and walk through the childhood years in real community. What are some other ways you can live in community as a busy SAHM??

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Aren't these great ideas for how to build relationships as a stay at home mom? If you'd like to add to what Hannah has shared, please feel free to leave a comment!

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  1. This is so so helpful to me as an upcoming SAHM... I noticed just as a stay at home wife how my friends are few in this new town (and state). I am excited to start meeting new people and build relationships.

  2. Hi there, I actually found your blog through Instagram...I saw your comment on Casey Weigand's Instagram post! :). funny thing, I think we actually live in the same town, Kalispell, and I'm positive that I saw your cute family at a restaurant a couple of months ago....hopefully that doesn't sound creepy weird or anything...haha...

    Anyway, I am a young mama too with two little munchkins of my own (our Instagram name is @littleladyandbobbi) and I have enjoyed reading some if your posts...thank you for sharing...your little guy is so cute! :)

    Kacey Rickel

  3. Perfect mama tips! It's so important to still be "you" outside of "mom." P.S. Yay YWAM! That is an organization very near and dear to my heart! xoxo


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