Monday, October 8, 2012

My Take on Influence

I've been thinking about the idea of "influence" for the last several months, as the Influence Conference has been approaching. We all have areas of influence in our life; we influence our kids, friends, spouses, co-workers, etc. Do we pay attention to the fact that we are currently influencing people? Are we taking advantage of this? Are we influencing people in healthy (or unhealthy) ways? These are some of the things I've been thinking about lately.

This month I asked my sponsors to answer a few specific questions about the idea of influence - and I'm really excited to hear and share their take on this topic! I think it is both helpful and interesting to hear from women in different walks of life. But since they're being brave and sharing their hearts on my blog, I thought I would join them! 

So to begin this little series of Q&A interviews on the topic of influence, here are some of my thoughts in the form of 3 questions & answers:

I'm a mom, a wife, a friend (and more!) How do I notice ways that I am able to influence people in my everyday life?

I've become a bit more aware of the fact that every interaction I have with someone is a chance to influence them. Whether that's to encourage them, speak kindly to them, lovingly correct them, etc. I don't always do so well with this (see the next question) - but each time I talk with someone is an opportunity to influence. This goes for my actions too. I see this especially with my son and husband, as you really do become like the people that you spend the most time with. 

What, if anything, challenges me about the fact that I have the power to influence others (in a negative or positive way)?

It definitely hit me when I became a mom - I have little eyes and ears watching me ALL DAY LONG. If I hurt myself and swear, Nicholas hears me. If I pray for someone or speak lovingly, Nicholas hears that too. This has made me a) cry out to God because I daily (ahem, hourly) do things with a sinful heart and bad attitude, and b) realize that the little (and big) things I do are on display for people to see. I don't want to try to be a perfect Christian robot who only does things because other people are watching; but I want to grow in being more aware of what I say and do, so that I can influence the people around me in a positive way.

Who have been big influencers in my life? How have they influenced me? (And was it small things, like the way they treated you, all the way to "bigger" things, like directly challenging/encouraging you?

I could literally talk about 100 people who have influenced me, but I'll just share one today. My husband is someone who has truly influenced me, and it's mostly through the small, daily things. The way that he stops to talk to everyone who crosses his path challenges me to lay down my agenda and love others. His compassion for people who are misunderstood causes me to see people differently. And his passion for Jesus and making Him known across the world was actually one of the things that caused me to join Youth With A Mission. Brian has had a lot of influence in my life! (Good thing he's so AWESOME!)

Thanks for reading this little Q&A interview - with myself :) I'd love to hear how you are challenged with the idea of influence, and who has been an influencer in your life. And I'm super excited to have Brin, Amber, Megan, and Jac share with you this month!

Have a wonderful week! This week I'll be doing the 3 P's - praying, packing, and peeing my pants because the Influence Conference begins this Thursday. 

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1 comment:

  1. I can definitely relate to realizing the influence you have over your children. That was something I didn't really think about, even for the first year or so. But there came a time when I realized that he notices everything I do, he's always there watching. And too when my husband and I are interactin with one another, in front of Isaac, are we kind to one another? or are we being snarky or arguing? It's definitely a big responsibility, this having influence over a tender soul and child!


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