Monday, May 7, 2012

Lessons Learned: What I Would Tell My New-Mama Self

You will love your son more and more everyday. The things you once thought would be a huge deal to give up in order to be a mom don't matter quite as much anymore. Though it's important to still be "you," you are a new "you." You've changed in ways you couldn't anticipate, and that you can't completely explain.

A combination of praying, crying, and chocolate helps most situations.

Don't try on your pre-pregnancy clothes 2 weeks after having your baby. That's a recipe for an emotional meltdown, deciding that you're "fat," and spending money on clothes that will be too big in a few weeks anyway.

Stretch marks don't fade the way "they" say they will. Get over it.

Never say never. You will let your baby take the pacifier that just fell on the ground. You will feed him just to shut him up. You will let him watch TV when you're too tired to care. It's ok to bend the rules every once in awhile.

Martha Stewart does not have a newborn. Therefore, you do not need to be Martha Stewart.

Cherish the 3am feedings. The moments of you being able to hold your son as he sleeps will become farther and few between. He won't always be this small, this cuddly, or this sweet-smelling.

Over the course of a few hours, you may feel overjoyed, scared, worried, ecstatic, and in love. This is pretty normal.

Jumping jacks and high knees are NOT the best way to begin exercising after a c-section.

Call your mom. She knows everything.

You CAN do this. It's worth every sleepless night, every tear, every day without a shower. Your child is a gift from the Lord. You are building the kingdom of God when you submit your motherhood and marriage to the Lord.

Moms, if you could, what would you tell your new-mama self?


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  1. I would tell myself to not be so proud to ask for help.

    Also, spend quality time with your husband, he needs attention too, not just the new baby.

  2. I love this post! These are all things I wish I had adopted sooner. You're a wise, lady!

    Something I would tell my new mama-self- Don't feel guilty for taking care of yourself. Whatever gives you energy and refreshes you, take time to do. It makes you a better, and more patient mother and wife. Do things that give you life when you're feeling depleted, and don't feel selfish about it.

  3. Love, love, love this post - so true. And, your son is just too freaking cute for words!!!!

  4. This post rings true in so many ways!! I would tell myself to make sure I get any sleep I could and make the most of every possible chance to lie in!!! Shame my 21 month old doesnt understand lie ins yet!!

  5. I love the part where you said "Martha Stewart doesn't have a newborn." ha! So true. So often we feel the pressure to have everything looking perfect, but that is not always reality. Loved this!

  6. Ahh! I just read this post again and it made me sigh with relief. It's just so perfect. Do you think you could do a guest post on my blog and use this? I would LOVE it!!!! LMK :)

  7. i'm not sure if it shows who i am from my last comment... just logged back in, hope this works :)

  8. I love this post! I've been married for a year, and I want to have kids eventually, but deep down I'm kinda scared. Thanks for making it all seem okay :)


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